thank |θa ng k|verb [ trans. ]express gratitude
you |yoō|pronoun [ second person singular or plural ]used to refer to the person or people that the speaker is addressing
When I was in middle school I came to understand the meaning of these two words : Thank You
I studied how people used it, and when they used it, I tested it out, on friends, family, teachers and strangers. I soon discovered that when, used it was often a simple reflex that every one was forced to say. All of us can remember a time when we where young and our minds where somewhat innocent, a stranger at the grocery store, an aunt or uncle we have not seen in quite some time, would give us something or complemented us, and our parents would automatically say to us " What do you say " ?? in a disguised manner of disappointment because we did not say it on our own. This is still practiced today. Instead of teaching the reason. See as a child we do not know the meaning of appreciation. We only know when to say it, its not our fault, its just how we where taught. As we got older and the world around us got smaller and faster, we find our self saying thank you at the wrong times, for example when you are crossing paths with a stranger and you say "hello", and they respond "fine thank you, and you? " the funny thing is they don't even know what they did and in most cases you may not even know what they did. Most people today walk around with blinders on pre programed into an 8 hour robotic routine.
Wake up, shower, no time to brush your teeth, coffee, out the door by 7:30 no later then 7:35, no time to warm the car up, no breakfast, no time for small talk, already have an excuse for being late, relieved if there is an accident to justify your tardiness, get to work, do your thing, tic tok tic tok TIME! in the car, now this is when most imaginations begin, what to do in my Personal Time?
This way of living forces us to ignore those around us, When was the last time you opened the door for someone when you where in a hurry? When did you stop to help someone pick up something they dropped? How many times have you been perturbed when someone was writing a check at the "checkout" line. This is why I see no need to be thanked
After my quick assessment in middle school I was against these words of gratefulness. Thanks Giving Ha! what a joke, how many times did someone come up short at the dinner table when it was there turn??? This was just a holiday from work or school. Now don't get me wrong i'm not judging anyone, like I said earlier its they way we grew up and where we grew up. NYC - good luck!! some where in the country, more likely with a story behind the thank you.
What I have come to practice today is, I look into every moment and find the most I can do to help someone, not for praise, but just because. I never want any thing in return, or I don't even want to know if it was appreciated. If its in my power to help then I will, and I will always take it to the extreme, even if it was not expected. I believe that its not needed for someone to ask for help. You should know your friends, and you should know your family. We all are capable of juggling one more object into our schedule. Plus I may be faster and better at helping resolve someone else's problem and they are capable of doing the same for me.
Dont isolate your self in your world.
Pay attention to those around you, lend your hand, mind and shoulder, and you will find that there will be someone there when you need it the most.
Thank you... ;0)
